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🧠 Opening Reflection
There’s a version of growth we don’t talk about enough.
The part where you realize that becoming who you’re meant to be doesn’t just add things to your life — it removes them.
New identities don’t coexist comfortably with old placeholders.
And sometimes the most accelerating move you can make isn’t external at all…
it’s internal, quiet, and deeply inconvenient.
This week reminded me:
Purpose-driven growth doesn’t always feel expansive at first. Sometimes it feels lonely.
This week’s blog spotlight
🧩 What I’m Working On
This week I added something small but meaningful to my mornings: a single tarot card pull to help guide the energy of my day.
Not for prediction, for presence.
It’s been grounding to ask, “What am I being invited to embody today?” before opening my laptop.
I’m also refining pieces of my coaching work and sitting with how I want to move forward, more intentionally, more honestly, and more aligned with who I’m becoming (not who I’ve been trying to hold onto).
😅 Real Talk: What’s Challenging Me Lately
I’m sitting with the reality that identity shifts require real change, not just new language or new goals.
Letting go of people, patterns, and roles that have acted as placeholders for a long time is uncomfortable.
And after a lifetime of already feeling “different,” this part of the journey can feel especially lonely.
But I’m learning that loneliness doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong.
Sometimes it means you’re early.
🧠 Client Insight of the Week
A powerful theme came up across sessions this week:
Peace doesn’t come from changing other people — it comes from accepting them fully and choosing yourself anyway.
Several clients shared how much energy they’ve spent trying to:
get others to understand
get others to change
get others to meet them where they are
And the shift was this:
When you accept people as they are — flaws, limits, and all — you free yourself to make choices that create peace, even if nothing around you changes.
Not every relationship is meant to evolve with you.
And not every ending needs a villain.
Sometimes the most aligned choice is simply redirecting your energy back to yourself.
💼 Business & Leadership Insight of the Week
Purpose-driven professionals accelerate faster because they stop leaking energy.
They don’t argue with reality.
They don’t wait for permission.
They don’t need consensus to move with integrity.
Leadership rooted in purpose looks like:
making decisions from self-trust
choosing clarity over approval
acting in alignment even when it’s misunderstood
Growth speeds up when your inner world is settled.
🎓 Inside My Course: The Inner Advantage
Inside The Inner Advantage, we focus on building exactly this kind of identity-led momentum — where decisions feel cleaner, boundaries feel steadier, and your path forward feels internally anchored.
This work isn’t about forcing clarity.
It’s about becoming the person who naturally moves with it.
🧩 The Alignment Tool of the Week (Save This)
The Peace-First Decision Filter
Before engaging, responding, or explaining, ask:
Does this require me to betray myself to be understood?
Is my energy better spent here — or redirected inward?
What choice brings me the most peace, even if nothing else changes?
You don’t need agreement to choose alignment.
Hey there,
You’re reading The Alignment Audit — my weekly reflection on what it really takes to build a business and a life that feel as good as they look. Around here, we talk about the psychology of success, the tension between doing and being, and what happens when you stop performing productivity and start living in alignment.
Every issue brings a mix of insight, honesty, and a little humor from the messy middle — where growth actually happens.
Let’s dive in.
— Shakirah
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Stuff That’s Keeping Me Sane
▶ 🧠 Thought: Some progress happens quietly before it shows up publicly
▶ 💼 Tool: Bend — daily stretching that actually feels doable
▶ 🧘🏽♀️ Ritual: A single tarot card pull each morning to set intention, not direction
▶ 📚 Read: Martha Beck (slowly). Sitting with chapters instead of consuming them like a rom-com
▶ 💬 Prompt: Where am I still trying to change someone else instead of choosing myself?not self-doubt?
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